I came to realize something after talking to an officemate in the CR..I asked her how her project was, instead of how her lovelife was which was what I really wanted to ask her. I hesitated since I don’t know if she would want to confide in me..I have read her blog site and clearly she was not having the best time with her lovelife..anyway her problem, according to the site, was that she regretted saying no to a long-term assignment abroad to nurture a new relationship since that new relationship turned sour even before she came home after a 1 month business trip..hmmm…

What I realized was this: one must not really do everything for our gf/bf relationships to the point that we do things we don’t really want to do. Why do we do this? devote so much of our thoughts on the relationship we are going to leave behind and make them interject in our decisions about our careers, our lives? Well, <sigh> I know it is hard because we want to fight for it and do our best not to ruin it. by ‘it’, I mean the relationship we believe is the ONE. And then the harder we fight for it and give our all for it, the more painful it gets when it crumbles down again..

When you think about it, if that relationship is really for us, it would still be there after that long-term assignment. it would wait patiently in the sidelines, until we’re through with our game. It supposedly shouldn’t be selfish and think only of it’s needs, it will let you grow and be there when the timing is right.. Well, easy for me to say, some would say, coz I have experienced my happy ending to the search for the ONE.. Yep, I was so glad it waited for me, while I learned my lesson about love and about myself. I just hope everybody else will be able to sit tight and just wait for it to come. coz it will come, cal, one way or the other. And all we have to do to prepare is learn the right lessons that the last relationship gave us.

P.S. About 6 years ago, a friend ask me what she should be afraid of when in a relationship. I said, be afraid of losing yourself, the real definition of you should not be lost just for your relationship…everybody should remember this.

[blog entry on 2/26/2007]